In trouble with the g/f

I forgot to buy her a valentines card and now she is quite annoyed and upset with me and I feel stupid.

She dosn't seem to understand male culture that we don't buy mates cards etc but I keep forgetting girls are different and seem to think spending 90p on a card means you care about them.

Anyway I am in deep trouble over it, I've upset her.

I need to think of something romantic and something that will surprise me. I have no idea what to do, we already have a hotel booked and we had a meal last week.

I want to spend around 100 quid to make her feel very special but don;t know how. Jewerely is out of the question due to practical problems.

Thanks

 

Did she get you anything for V-day?

I am probably the wrong person to give suggestions but if it were me I would look her in the eyes, and tell her how I really do love her and that I was sorry for not getting her a card. The reason is that I generally think of it as a commercial holiday and so don't give it much thought, but it really doesn't mean I (you) don't love her. If I had realised what it meant to her I would have got one.

If she is still moody after that I would get angry with her for caring more about a stupid commercial 90p card than the fact that I really do love her and told her so from the bottom of my heart. Complaining about things and moaning about your downfalls is one way girls like to get power over you (or so I have found). It is a very slippery slope if you simply keep apologising (unless it really was a bad thing you did!). Sometimes they want to have an argument and then make up.

But hey, I'm single! Actually an old friend tracked me down via this forum and sent me a few PMs recently. She has no interest in hi-fi but maybe I should get her to give some advice here 'from the other side' lol!

 

how about a day trip somewhere?
e.g. was looking at ryanair.com just yesterday, i could buy return flights to malmo in sweden for £40 per person. (39p each + tax) in march.
maybe for £100 you could visit another city for 1 day.
e.g. feb 28th, 07:55 flight from manchester to dublin, return flight at 18:10, total cost £82.74
it's a short bus ride from the airport to the city centre, would give you a few hours to walk around, drink guinness .......

 

"I would get angry with her "

PARDON???

....I don't think so!!


if it were me, I would try an ENORMOUS bunch of flowers for starters...

you know her likes/dilikes...take it from there....


"Complaining about things and moaning about your downfalls is one way girls like to get power over you "


.....in that case, if you don't mind my saying so, you ahve the wrong girl!!!


hvaing said that, I too am single , so take what you want out of the above!!!


best of luck!




David

 

well... DID she get YOU a card AT?

 

.....does that matter?

IMO this is a man thing (unless it slips his mind of course).

 

yeah I think it does. If she did nothing either, then she hasn't a leg to stand on.

You're right though, women are weird.

 

We'll have to agree to differ in this one, Chris.

 

I'd get her to spend Saturday helping me sort the rust out on the Fiesta.

 

my lady got a valentines card in the post too - I think I know who it's from but she's just kinda hidden it away thinking I'd forget about it...
I try not to worry about it too much but I do think about it at times...sigh...women...

 

Women eh. No matter how sensible you think they are they can all surprise you by being offended when they don't get something nice on valentines day. I think the secret is just to get them something, anything, and give it tenderly as a little token and you're in the clear. Of course, if they're not happy with just a card (assuming its a nice one and you've written a nice message) or some other token and demand a bunch of roses, then is the time to sigh and roll your eyes, and with good reason.

AT...I'd suggest finding a health farm or something nearby to the hotel you have booked and treat her to a massage, facial, seaweed scrub or whatever floats her boat in that department. They may even have that kind of service available at the hotel......not from the room service guy!!

 

face it - you screwed up big time - in her eyes anyway. to a bloke it's all a bit meh but to her you're a forgetful oaf who's love for her is questionable (or she's playing power games but as someone said if she is then she's the wrong person to be with).

let me first make one thing perfectly clear.
NOTHING YOU DO TO RECTIFY THE SITUATION WILL BE RIGHT
take her to a health spar and you're saying she's fat and ugly, take her out to dinner and she will eat salad and complain.

you should really have set low expectations at the start so a card and some dying roses the day after would be taken as a major bonus but never mind.

best thing to do now is make her laugh do something that embarrasses you, doesn;t embarrass her and that she finds funny.
that way you go from thoughtless oaf to lovable oaf.

all this said i've only just jumped back on the relationship treadmill so i may be talking out of my arse but laughter mends a lot of bridges ime.

 

You might have something there, bob....

(perhapts after the flowers/chocs, though......)




I'd say Julians about spot on

 

baaah humbug

dont toady up to her, ignore her for a while, and then when you speak tell her about the great time you've been having.


She'll be chasing you then..

 

There you are AT, you pays your money and you takes your choice.......

 

Am I the only one amused by the fact that all the advice seems to be coming from single guys?.

FWIW, I think Julian's spot on.

 

Im just amused by the thread in general! In fact, I think AT should have his own section.

My opinion; I wouldnt dare missing valentines day, these things mean alot to women (and some men no doubt) and its not hard to remember it.

 

David, I actually would be angry if things went as I described in my first post. If she needs a card to make her feel I love her, even after telling her so and probably taking her out to dinner (okay just added that part), or else she will be mad with me for a week then she is not the right girl for me!

Of course I would not forget in the first place so I don't have all that trouble!

 

maybe single guys are the ones with experience of a greater quantity of women...

and yes, Julians advice is the safest.

 

chris,
you slag...