Owl,
We're not arguing; we're having a discussion. And you're right, we're pretty much singing from the same hymn sheet 
However -- 
Yup, no doubt that happens. It's a matter of balance though just like with most things in life. Too little or too much scepticism is bad - what you're aiming for is a 'healthy amount'. Trouble is, I doubt we'll agree on what exactly that is!
For sure, but I would never audition everything that was recommended. I just make a shortlist of stuff that interests me, find a dealer that stocks it, arrange an audition, and buy what I like. Sometimes I might arrange to try equipment at home. It's a relatively simple process that's served me well for years. For me, hi-fi isn't complicated, but some people seem determined to make it that way!
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Paul