We largely bounce around under the control of our desire.

Three ages of man

Youth = body - disco - dance - LOUD! always looking for *more* = better fun.

Grown-up = intellect - the hi-fi people  superiority! always looking for *more* = better satisfying the ego.

Growing-down = spirit - the music people  seniority! always looking for *more* = better justifying self.

Answer - don't let it control you - you control it. Take your own life where you want it, don't let it take you. Sensitivity.

There you go - you see really I am just a pretentious ****

Richard