Girls stop the crap about bad men winning etc woman don't want a sap for a boyfriend.

If you are a sap, i.e. a good listener on the first date, caring, loving, not interested in the footy etc all on the first date or before the first date then you are a SAP and she is not interested.

Surely you have grasped this?

Unless you are going after the weird women who won't let you out of their site etc. In which case being a SAP is a big plus,