My girlfriends gone crazzzzzy! (long winded & personal)

IME girls change a hell of alot between 18-21, well everyone does but I think its alot more apparant in girls. Ive found the older they are the more stable things are. Its just biology Im afraid.
 
Tenson said:
She is 1 year younger than me. She is 18, I'm 19.
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Shouldn't be soooo bad then as you're a similar age. They say women mature faster than men, and physically, that's true, but emotionally, I'm not so sure...

Tenson said:
Thanks Dom that seems helpful. I think I will try to see her more and probably bring it up as well when in person if the time seems alright.
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Don't be so forthright as me when you do though! I'm useless with women, although that said, oddly, my advice often works for mates... Bizarre!
 
Tenson said:
Michael, have you read it? Do you understand? Can't you just tell me the answer lol, I'm a slow reader!
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I have read most of it but it'd be much better if you read it yourself. Even better if you could get your g/f to read it aswell.

It's basically about the fact that men and women have completely different ways of communicating and therefore they either don't communicate well or simply fail to communicate at all which leads to misunderstandings, arguments and often the end of a relationship.

The things you've said in this thread seem to mostly fall into the "communication failure" category. I strongly recommend you read the book. You don't have to read it from cover to cover, even reading the first chapter will help you understand a lot.

IMO the vast majority of divorces/ends of relationships are down to quite simple failures to communicate.

Probably the most important tip I can give you from the book is that when your g/f is talking to you about her problems (home life etc) just listen and comfort her and whatever you do don't try to come up with 'solutions'.

Michael.
 
Tenson said:
Over the last few months I seem to be getting in to more and more arguments with my girlfriend. She used to have the odd upset now and then, either 'cos I was an idiot or because her family life isn't that good. In the recent months though it has been getting worse and it has got to the point now where nearly every other week or more I have her insulting me, telling me I am so arrogant and when I ask what the matter is, she likes to say its me. I don't know what I have done and she will not tell me.
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Without wishing to sound harsh, it sounds very much like your girlfriend no longer really wants to be part of the relationship. The manifestation of this is her being angry at you and insulting you even though you've done nothing specific wrong.

The problem being that the resentment is always there, no matter what you do or don't do.

Have you considered that she might be doing what many people in such situations do... pushing you to dump her?
 
Most people want a meaningful relationship, forgive the imposition but sounds to me like the meaning of yours is "my girlfriend is a pain in the arse" At 19 I recall thinking I was all loved up but frankly I was well out of it.Half the population are female I'm sure you can find another who better suits your requirements. Besides she does sound a touch mental!
 
Hmmm...sounds like the Forum has spoken Tenson. I'm afraid you're going to have to get rid of her. Local ZG staff will be around to help with the task if you should fail to succeed.
You have 20 days to comply.
Good luck.
 
Juboy nail hit head.

She wants out but does not have the guts to tell you.

Behave like a grown up and bin her, then get on with your life.

Don't give it all that about being in love with her, this does not sound like love it sounds like both of you non committed, and why should you be, your only kids.

Bin her before she bins you.
 

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